"friendly reminder" posts annoy me, but here’s one anyway:
The word “problematic” was never meant to be the auto-win card of social justice discussions. Problematic is not a synonym for bad or wrong. Problematic literally means…
desperation; despair; distress.
also i’m sick of everyone acting like all abuse= the absence of love
because it makes it so much harder when it’s framed that way to recognize abuse as abuse
it’s so much more subtle than that. Someone can care about you enough to sacrifice everything for you and still be an abuser.
Just because someone loves you doesn’t mean you have to put up with that
ARTICLES DENOUNCING THE SOCIAL INTERNET, CLAIMING IT ERODES OUR IRL RELATIONSHIPS, SEEM TO HAVE FORGOTTEN HOW WE WERE ALL STARVING BEFORE
THEY FORGET HOW LONELY IT WAS, LIKE, ALL THE TIME
I ENJOY MY OWN COMPANY, BUT I’M GLAD YOU’RE ALL HERE. IT’S NICE. EVEN IF I DON’T ALWAYS FEEL LIKE PARTICIPATING ACTIVELY
I feel like sometimes the complaints boil down to “but now socializing and not being alone is Too Easy.”
Anonymous asked: Do you mind sharing the set of goals beneficial to people that you mentioned in your answer to the Good Person ask?
This has been sitting for a while mostly because it’s actually hard to answer. I have a tendency to want to influence the world and have power over it, which is sort of a potentially-maladaptive trait. But there’s a thing I noticed a long time ago: Despair is boring, because everyone who has been completely broken is the same. Joy is utterly unique, and no two people are fulfilled the same way. Also, it is much easier to hurt people than to make them better. Easier = less interesting.
So basically, I spend my time trying to fix broken things and nudge people into being whatever it is they want to be, because this produces the most interesting results and provides the greatest challenge.
"Despair is boring, because everyone who has been completely broken is the same. Joy is utterly unique, and no two people are fulfilled the same way."
Elsa | 紫苑
This looks like the type of horse that will lure you onto his back and then carry you into a lake.
Kelpie. Or possibly a Pooka. Do not trust horses who show up in the middle of nowhere and seem to want to give you a ride.
(Source: whiteangelxoxo, via everlind)